Raise your freak
A cab driver was telling me his story the other day. It was a different version of the story I hear (and see) all too often; I’m doing this, but what I really want to do is something else…
Take a seat, I want to tell you something…
That’s it; that’s all I have to write! I can go out now. End of blog.
OK, I’ll discuss this a bit more.
Whatever it is; a project, a job, a person, a new relationship, the environment where you live, travel, maybe you want to be more gracious, or to love your big ears and pitted thighs…
… When you press the pause and mute button on life’s remote control, you know, or at least have an idea, of the smolder on the inside.
You control life, not the other way round – don’t ever misunderstand this or be fooled otherwise.
We bound ourselves in cages and by rules we ‘have to’ abide by. Quite frankly it’s time for the freak in us to break out.
Expect to lose some people on your way. This is no one’s fault, nonetheless it is likely to happen. When you expand rather than keeping yourself constricted, when you begin to radiate who you really are, doing and being the things you desire, your truths no longer match – how can they? … Unless they expand too. However, you have no control over them, nor is it your business to do so.
You met and formed relationships when you had your armour on, protecting you from big bad wolves, keeping you in a state of grey. Anything else in those eras or times, you weren’t ready for. But now, now you are. Now it’s time to shed self-doubt, to work on your lack of self-worth and low confidence. How are these actually helping you anymore? It is not selfish and cowardly to be happy.
If you have a partner who doesn’t support or grow with you, preferring to retain situations in current boundaries, you have to question whether you really want people like this in your life. Are they serving and loving you well? Are you serving and loving them well?
“We have children Annaliese.” My response is that it’s even more important to take a stand. If you don’t the only thing you teach your children, the ONLY thing you teach them, is how to ignore and put a lid on it, to deny your worth and dreams in order to make somebody else feel happy and unthreatened. Guess what will happen? They will grow up and do exactly the same thing, struggling with it 20 years later. Is that really what you want for them? Children follow your example – not what you say or pretend.
People who cheat: Again, you are cheating yourself. There is something you want to do, be, or say and you’re not, so this is being expressed in infidelity. It has nothing to do with your partner, or the fact somebody else looked hot and you were drunk. It is not wrong to end relationships because you met somebody else or wish to be on your own. What’s wrong is masking the truth.
So open up your space, stop micro-managing shit and creating drama to cover up the fact that you are not living the life you want to. It’s this that is reckless, irresponsible and hurts others; not honesty and being true to who you are.
The irony is, this is we want to feel from others! We want connection, raw truth and authenticity. I hope you agree that this place feels so much better; real, exciting, purposeful.
Ooooooh, I can feel some nerves I’m touching here!
Because you see my darlings, by not owning your freak, by not allowing the person you know you are to come forth, by not showing up in the world – you are not only doing a disservice to yourself, but to others. You are denying others the chance to experience your personality, talents and love. Have you any idea the difference you can make to their lives, as well as your own? You are taking this away from them (and yourself) by not doing this.
This is what the world and people crave, both in our personal and professional lives, and they are waiting for you. You will be rewarded in ways you can’t even think of. To not do this is the biggest crime we commit against ourselves, against others and to humanity.
Whatever and whoever it looks like for you… Raise your f*cking freak, and raise it boldly!
Until next time,
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